According to Dr. William Glasser, noted psychiatrist and author of numerous books, all relationships have the same fundamentals.
When we behave in a manner that yields more connection between the two parties, then we are engaging in connecting habits. On the other hand, if we were to act in a way that promotes disconnection, then we would be doing one or more of the seven deadly habits.
The 7 Deadly Habits are:
- Rewarding to control (as in manipulating)
The 7 Connecting Habits are:
Do you recognize your own actions anywhere in these lists?
If you have not yet read Choice Theory: A New Psychology of Personal Freedom then I urge you do do so now. It is available in a variety of formats including paperback and on Kindle as well as many other options.
In my next article, I will address a common question: “But if I don’t nag/threaten my daughter, then she doesn’t listen to me!”