Conflict resolution is the methods and processes involved in facilitating the peaceful ending of social conflict including but not limited to negotiation, mediation, diplomacy, and creative peace building.

Deal with Strong Willed, Determined, Child without Breaking Spirit

Parents of strong willed children have my sympathy and congratulations. Why? Once upon a time, I was one of those smart, willful, independent, children. Then, I grew up and became the parent of a strong willed child. Thank heavens my … Continue reading

Child’s Targeted Behavior Problems

by James Lehman, MSW For many children, behavior problems are not universal; they’re targeted. Targeted at dad, at mom, at the stepmother, at the fiancé, at a sibling. The following two case studies reveal how normally charming and compliant children … Continue reading

Co-Parenting Strategies Help Avoid Conflicts

Under the best set of circumstances parenting can be difficult, but it can be even more challenging if you are attempting to co-parent effectively. Does this position, sound familiar? Don’t give up. There are some co-parenting strategies to help avoid … Continue reading

Is Shunning an Act of Bullying?

One of our readers had an excellent question about kids who deliberately avoid or reject another.  We’ve probably all experienced this either for ourselves or watched it happen to someone else.  Shunning for no known reason to the person being … Continue reading

Disciplining Kids: The Secret To Avoiding Power Struggles

I listened to a 1-minute video about giving children choices. My issue with choices is when my 3- year old daughter doesn’t make a choice. I ask her calmly to make a choice. She says “NOTHING”. So I calmly say … Continue reading

Disciplining Children: To Punish Or To Consequence

In previous posts, we have spoken about the differences between punishment and consequences and how to use this knowledge to discipline your teen. Can this work with younger kids? It most definitely can. Punishment is usually metered out with anger … Continue reading

Disciplining Teens: To Punish Or To Consequence

Many times we punish teens and we really don’t have to. Punishing teens means that we deliver our judgments in a harsh accusatory manner. For example, when our teens come home late we might immediately run to ground them. “How … Continue reading

Defiant Kids: How To Help Them Be Respectful

    We had some great feedback from a recent class we did on  “When Your Child Is Defiant: Simple Ways To Avoid Power Struggles.” Here’s some of the feedback… “I really identified with a lot of what you spoke … Continue reading

Using Limits to Keep Peace

When my son Aidan would not do what I asked or behaved disrespectfully, he and I would both get very angry. My husband would yell at him and Aidan would cry, and I would feel terribly upset with the overall … Continue reading

Teaching Through Love Instead of Fear – Emotional Needs

One of the big issues in schools today is “bullying.” Parents and teachers struggle daily with how to stop this behavior. Without realizing it, adults teach bullying behavior to children by modeling it when they use the threat of their … Continue reading