Conflict resolution is the methods and processes involved in facilitating the peaceful ending of social conflict including but not limited to negotiation, mediation, diplomacy, and creative peace building.

Deal with Strong Willed, Determined, Child without Breaking Spirit

Parents of strong willed children have my sympathy and congratulations. Why? Once upon a time, I was one of those smart, willful, independent, children. Then, I grew up and became the parent of a strong willed child. Thank heavens my mother was a good teacher and let me in on her secrets! If you didn’t […]

Child’s Targeted Behavior Problems

by James Lehman, MSW For many children, behavior problems are not universal; they’re targeted. Targeted at dad, at mom, at the stepmother, at the fiancé, at a sibling. The following two case studies reveal how normally charming and compliant children can become defiant or even abusive with one person in the family. James Lehman examines […]

Co-Parenting Strategies Help Avoid Conflicts

Under the best set of circumstances parenting can be difficult, but it can be even more challenging if you are attempting to co-parent effectively. Does this position, sound familiar? Don’t give up. There are some co-parenting strategies to help avoid conflicts and minimize problems. See if any of these strategies will help you keep the […]

Is Shunning an Act of Bullying?

One of our readers had an excellent question about kids who deliberately avoid or reject another.  We’ve probably all experienced this either for ourselves or watched it happen to someone else.  Shunning for no known reason to the person being ignored can be confusing and hurtful. We asked expert, Amy Burzinski to offer some feedback […]

Disciplining Kids: The Secret To Avoiding Power Struggles

I listened to a 1-minute video about giving children choices. My issue with choices is when my 3- year old daughter doesn’t make a choice. I ask her calmly to make a choice. She says “NOTHING”. So I calmly say “ok, then I’ll make the choice for you”. I make the choice, and she has […]

Disciplining Children: To Punish Or To Consequence

In previous posts, we have spoken about the differences between punishment and consequences and how to use this knowledge to discipline your teen. Can this work with younger kids? It most definitely can. Punishment is usually metered out with anger and accusations. Punishment does not teach kids to improve their behavior. Kids get defensive and […]

Disciplining Teens: To Punish Or To Consequence

Many times we punish teens and we really don’t have to. Punishing teens means that we deliver our judgments in a harsh accusatory manner. For example, when our teens come home late we might immediately run to ground them. “How dare you come home late? Do you know how worried I was? You are grounded […]

Defiant Kids: How To Help Them Be Respectful

    We had some great feedback from a recent class we did on  “When Your Child Is Defiant: Simple Ways To Avoid Power Struggles.” Here’s some of the feedback… “I really identified with a lot of what you spoke about tonight. Thanks so much for the great advice.”  “Great class last night. I really […]

Using Limits to Keep Peace

When my son Aidan would not do what I asked or behaved disrespectfully, he and I would both get very angry. My husband would yell at him and Aidan would cry, and I would feel terribly upset with the overall negativity hanging over my family like a dark cloud. I would like to give you […]

Teaching Through Love Instead of Fear – Emotional Needs

One of the big issues in schools today is “bullying.” Parents and teachers struggle daily with how to stop this behavior. Without realizing it, adults teach bullying behavior to children by modeling it when they use the threat of their physical size or power to make children do things. When I hear a parent counting […]