I am so excited! Jane Nelsen from Positive Discipline has agreed to join us for our Summer Master Parenting Class.
Last year I became a Positive Discipline instructor and my love for the Positive Discipline approach has grown.
There are 27 basic tools of Positive Discipline. Each one is valuable. I was just reading over the book, “Positive Discipline A to Z.” As I was flipping through the pages one tool stood out, “Welcome Mistakes.”
I know that I dread making mistakes I am so hard on myself sometimes.
In “Positive Discipline A to Z” the authors say,
“We all know people who have made a mistake and then dug themselves into a hole by trying to cover it up. They don’t understand that people are often very forgiving when others honestly admit their mistakes, apologize, and try to solve the problems they have created…Hiding mistakes keeps you isolated because you can’t fix mistakes that are hidden, nor can you learn from them. Trying to prevent mistakes keeps you rigid and fearful.”
It has not been easy but over the years I have tried to embrace the notion that I should welcome or even celebrate my mistakes. When I look back on the mistakes that I made I know I learned a lot from almost all of them.
That is the message that Positive Discipline wants to us to teach our children. That everyone makes mistakes and it is okay. It is part of being human. We should teach our children that mistakes can be used to make connections with the people they might have wronged. They don’t have to be scared to reach out make amends.
The authors of Positive Discipline A to Z go on to say, “Inform your children that making mistakes isn’t as important as what they do about them. Anyone can make mistakes, but it takes a secure person to say, “I’m wrong and I’m sorry.”
Positive Discipline also outlines the “The Three R’s of Recovery From Mistakes” that can help us all make amends:
1. Recognize the mistake with a feeling of responsibility instead of blame.
2. Reconcile by apologizing to the people you have offended or hurt.
3. Resolve the problem, when possible, by working together on a solution.
This is just some of the wonderful information from the Positive Discipline series. I can’t wait to hear more from our guest speaker.
Join our new Parenting Master Class and hear great information on how to improve your parenting this summer!
Adina Soclof, MS. CCC-SLP