The Purest Love

By: Kira Shcherbakova
Christian Inspirational Author and Speaker

One day, when Mitchell was under two years of age (now three years old), he took a chair from the kitchen and started dragging it into the room. We have carpet outside of the kitchen, so once he got to that point, it got much harder to push. However he persisted.

My husband, Gene, told him to stop and put the chair back in its place, but Mitchell didn’t listen.
Gene told him again. He started to get irritated and raise his voice. Mitchell did not yield, but continued to push the chair into the room.

By the time Mitchell reached the computer table where Gene was sitting, my husband was sternly looking at him and saying, “Why did you drag the chair here? Go put it back!”

Mitchell quietly pushed the chair toward Gene, looked at him with his sweet and innocent eyes and said, “Here you go dad. Sit down.”

He dragged the chair halfway across the apartment, through thick carpet, endured Gene’s reprimands and lovingly, with concern for his dad’s comfort, put it next to him so Gene could sit down.

We so often blame our family for not doing enough for us, reproach them for behaving unsuitably, criticize them for not doing things our way. But so rarely do we just love the people closest to us, with a pure and unconditional love.

Sure, maybe our parents criticize us; maybe they try to control us. Maybe our spouses ignore us or don’t want to understand how we feel. Maybe our siblings hold grudges against us from some childhood situations. But does it really matter in the grand scheme of things?

Let us learn from our children. Let’s persevere through the criticism, persist through the misunderstanding and, with love and concern, serve the people closest to us.

Let us love our family the way our children love us, with the purest love.

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Comments

  1. How wonderful!

  2. I realize it’s besides the point, but if “Gene” was already sitting, why would he need a chair to sit down on?

  3. I’m sorry, but I disagree. It is more important for our children to learn obedience, than it is for us to get warm fuzzes over a cut thing they did.

    • Sharon,
      I do not require obediance but just stop when I ask and let’s discuss why you are doing it. Look for the opportunity for a win-win.

    • I don’t agree that this story displays an issue of disobedience, but rather how easily something so simple can be blown out of proportion. Children naturally want to please their parents and that is exactly what three-year old Mitchell was trying to do. Good for Mitchell for being so thoughtful, and his parents, for raising a perceptive and compassionate child!

      • Lovely comment. I see where parents can get hung up on the lack of obedience in this story; however the ending and the moral touched my heart so much that I had to share it.

        How often have I said something like, “Joey! Why aren’t you in bed yet?”

        And my 10-year-old will respond with something like, “I got a paper towel to clean up the mouthwash I accidentally spilled on he counter when I brushed my teeth.” (My kids know how much I appreciate it when they take the initiative to clean up little messes!)

    • Teaching obedience alone can be a dangerous thing — children face the risk of abuse when they only learn to be obedient to ALL adults/or even those older than they are, without question. There are many ways to teach our children about rules, cooperation, consequences for ignoring rules, and the like, WITHOUT shouting and/or spanking. It is also important for them to learn when it’s OK to question an adult, refuse to cooperate in a situation where they don’t feel safe, and to “trust their gut” when they feel endangered, and know that they will not be punished for doing so. Parents learn to recognize and identify their children’s facial expressions and body language, and can usually tell if their child is acting out, or simply being persistent or determined about what they are trying to do. If this child was looking back at his parents with a mischevious grin each time he was told to stop what he was doing, that would indicate to me that he was being defiant. It sounds like this child had one mission in mind, to make his dad comfortable, and he stuck to his plan. How many times have we all reprimanded our kids for something they did before we found out why they were doing it? I have had to eat my words many times while my girls were growing, and have been moved to tears countless times by their purity of heart and selfless concern for my welfare. These are as much learning experiences for me as they are for them.

    • maybe its we who ought learn to discipline ourselves instead of our kids. maybe we ought clear the way so for then so they can live a joyful happy whole some life instead of begin crippled with your do as told or else. They learn be proper puppets, instead of thinking HUMaN Beings

    • Posts like this brighten up my day. Thanks for taking the time.

  4. Hi,
    My son is now 22yrs.old and is mad and not speaking with us cos we mixed things up with his girlfriend in the meaning we are doing the right …so at times like that I like to think of just those things that where filled with (like above)innocent love,then it makes me feel better and not so very sad.