Recently, I read an article (or two) about Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith’s parenting style. He was quoted as saying, “We respect our children the way we would respect any other person. Things like cleaning up their room. You would never tell a full-grown adult to clean their room, so we don’t tell our kids to clean their rooms.” The article goes on to mention that Willow and Jaden, twelve and fourteen years old respectively, are taught that they are taking care of their parents’ property, which they do not own.
In a different article, Will Smith makes a similar statement. He explained his parenting style saying, “We generally don’t believe in punishment. From the time Jaden was five or six we would sit him down, and all he has to do is be able to explain why what he did was the right thing for his life.”
Generally, I like Will Smith. I must admit that I was a bit surprised at the statements. Several things flitted through my mind as I considered what he said. My first thought was, “I wish I didn’t have to tell the kids to clean their rooms or anything else for that matter!” I do agree with several principles behind the statements Will made; but, I had a difficult time making them work in my family.
I was wondering what you think of Will and Jada Pinkett Smith’s parenting style. What parts do you agree with and would you consider incorporating into your own style? Which parts do you disagree with and feel aren’t right for your kids? Share your thoughts below.